Lower expectations

Men have significant high expectations we need to deliver to the ecosystems we live in.

Dads are expected to do "dad stuff". If only that included routinely wearing a princess dress and tiara to go to a tea party along with Mr and Mrs Bear. My wife doesn't think the kids should know about this part of me. How will I hide the dozens of pairs of shoes, or neatly hung dresses, or drawer full of bras and pantyhose from inquiring mind who expect a truthful dad.

Husbands are expected to provide a strong shoulder to their wives, supporting them in adventures and perils, calming their fashion anxieties. Who will support my occasional displeasure at wearing a shirt and tie, and readily encourage me to just wear anything when I change for the last time into a pretty dress, matching heels, and coordinated purse.

Role models are expected to provide stable models to impressionable minds. Why not also show the true, wavy mind that struggles with identity, fitting in, and social acceptance even at a mature age.


As crossdressers, we lower our expectations of acceptance as we try to survive and avoid disruption to others and their high expectations.